I do not want you to judge yourself if you can relate to this topic. Most people at one time or another have stayed in an abusive relationship when logically they knew it was time to leave. This information is not about judging yourself on why you cannot seem to get out of this relationship. This is not about hating yourself for “wasting” years going back and forth on the hamster wheel of abuse with your partner.
I receive many comments and questions from parenting wanting information on how they can teach their children about the abuse they have experienced either in their own marriage or throughout their own life. They want so badly to educate them on all the things they themselves did not learn growing up.
We are often programmed to view our negative emotions as bad things. I am here to challenge that assumption. Creating a healthy and happy life is not about being positive in every single moment. Life happens and when it happens it can be brutally painful.
We have all come in contact with someone who pushes the envelope between respect and disrespect. Someone that plays a fine line between taking advantage of us and being considerate. These people are usually the takers in life. They are often the manipulative or narcissistic people we come in contact with.
This week I wanted to touch on a subject most people have or are struggling with when they are coming out of a bad marriage or breakup. When you have been betrayed by someone you trusted or was in an emotionally abusive or narcissistic relationship it is very common to fear that everyone you meet going forward will be like your ex.
If you have ever been with a narcissist you may often ask the question “did this person love me?” It is not uncommon for people to obsess over this question especially if they were discarded. After being discarded by a narcissist it is often what the victim will think over and over again.
The narcissist dance or emotionally abusive cycle is always the same. First comes the love bombing phase. This is where the narcissist will put you on a pedestal. They think you are their soulmate.
I receive a lot of emails and comments from people telling me they want more of something. Whether that be happiness, peace, to heal from their past, success, eliminate stress or anxiety, get in shape, acquire more money, have a great partner, the list goes on and on.
How to Distance Yourself from an Emotionally Abusive Person
It is not always easy dealing with someone who is emotionally abusive. The exhaustion that we face when having these relationships in our lives is sometimes too much for one person to bare.