I love this week’s topics because it is all about self-respect and this is a major aspect of self-love that most people lose sight on. They think people respect them but when they dig deep they realize they do not practice the following steps towards building respect within themselves.
1. LEARN HOW TO RESPECT YOURSELF
Respecting yourself is all about knowing who you are. What do you need and what makes you tick? Why are you here? What do you need in your relationships in order to feel fulfilled?
What are you not giving yourself that you need to start working on in order to be happier in your life?
You cannot respect yourself or teach people how you want to be treated if you do not know what that looks like. This is where we breakdown who you are and what are your standards for how you want to be treated.
2. LEARN TO SAY “NO”
Saying “no” to others is the most self-loving thing you can do because that means that at that moment you put yourself first. That means that regardless you need to take care of yourself first because no one else is going to take care of you like you should be going.
When you run yourself too thin and never give yourself the freedom of self-care that means that you do not respect yourself. It means that you are always putting others before yourself.
While that may seem like a nice person, the nice person we meet in life usually never takes care of themselves and is always doing too much for others and not enough for themselves.
3. INVEST IN PEOPLE WHO INVEST IN YOU
When we begin dating someone or perhaps meet a new friend and we start giving too much too fast, that is not healthy. Investing in others as they prove they are worthy of your time, energy and investment is someone who loves themselves and respects themselves.
4. DON’T EMOTIONALLY REACT TO OTHERS
Engaging with others and getting offended on a deep level lowers your vibration. Taking things personally as if what someone is saying was a direct hit at you and not understanding how to receive a message takes practice.
As you begin practicing how to hold on to yourself you will undoubtingly STOP emotionally reacting to others. You will keep your vibration in tack and not allow someone to through you off course.
5. LEARN TO VERBALLY COMMUNICATION YOUR STANDARDS
Being able to hold onto yourself and then express yourself in a mature and calm way shows a great deal of self-respect because again you are not allowing yourself to get entangled with others who are in a negative space. You know what disrespectful, abusive behavior looks like.
You know who you are and your standards and are able to communicate with others what is acceptable and what is not acceptable behavior.
6. LEARN TO SET BOUNDARIES
When we learn how to verbally communicate with others usually what comes next is enforcing our standards which means learning how to set boundaries. If the person continues behavior that you do not like will you be confident and have the self-respect to not fear confrontation or will you allow their abuse or disrespectful behavior to continue?
7. ENFORCING YOUR BOUNDARIES
People that often do not enforce boundaries suffer from fear. They fear being alone. They fear someone rejecting them if they set a boundary. They fear someone thinking they are asking too much or being bitchy.
When you love yourself and respect yourself you do not fear someone leaving your life. Of course it may hurt for a while but in the end, you know you would be ok and that is what allows you to honor and respect yourself to tell people what you think and how you feel.
As you begin loving yourself and the life you are building, you do not want anyone coming into your life that is not healthy. You realize that you have done so much work to create a great life that you will not allow anyone to come in and harm what you have built.
That is why I always say.. focus on loving yourself and building a great life alone because everything else will fall into place after that. Your standards will increase, you will expect more from people and you will have the confidence to demand this from yourself and from others.