How to Stop Being a Perfectionist

This week we are tackling the need some of us have to be perfect. This can be something that paralyzes you at times because no matter what you do it is never good enough. 

The question I have for you is “what does being perfect give you?” Often times we think if we are perfect that we will automatically get us love, acceptance, and approval. That if we are perfect and do everything “right” no one will leave us or hurt us. 

When we demand this level of perfectionism on ourselves it causes a great amount of anxiety because the self-talk that is going on in your mind is one of conditional love. 

When you love yourself conditionally then you create a whole within yourself that can never be filled. After so many years of this you will end up feeling depleted and empty. Your confidence and self-esteem will go down because again no matter what you do, it is never good enough. 

Another aspect of perfectionism is CONTROL

You most likely do this on an unconscious level but when we seek control over everything that means we will feel safe. It means if you can control everything that you can never feel disappointed. 

If you are ready to heal your perfectionism watch this weeks video! 

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Stephanie coaches her clients that have recently gone through a divorce or ended a relationship. She teaches them the process of healing.

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