2 Things That Will Make You Feel Confident
Aug 04, 2025
Let’s be honest, feeling confident after a heartbreak or major life change can feel nearly impossible. You start questioning everything: your worth, your looks, your choices, your future. Maybe you’ve been through a divorce, a toxic relationship, or a time in life where everything felt like it fell apart.
But here’s the truth: confidence isn’t something you’re born with. It’s something you build. And the good news? It doesn’t have to be complicated. You don’t need a 20-step morning routine or a new life plan. Confidence starts with a few key shifts.
Today I want to share two simple things that will help you start feeling confident again. These are things I’ve used in my own life and what I teach my clients who are rebuilding themselves after heartbreak.
Shift How You Think About Yourself
Let’s start with mindset. You can’t feel confident if you’re constantly thinking negative things about yourself. Most of us don’t even realize how often we do this:
- “I look so tired today.”
- “No one’s going to want someone like me.”
- “I should be further along by now.”
This inner dialogue chips away at your self-worth little by little.
So what do you do instead?
You become intentional with your thoughts. This doesn’t mean fake affirmations or pretending everything’s perfect. It means noticing when you’re tearing yourself down and choosing something more supportive instead.
Try this the next time your inner critic shows up:
- If you think, “I’m a mess,” replace it with: “I’m figuring it out, and that’s okay.”
- If you think, “I’m not attractive anymore,” replace it with: “I’m learning to love myself as I am.”
This one shift in mindset is where true confidence starts. When you speak to yourself with respect, your energy changes. You carry yourself differently. You show up to the world in a new way. And people feel that.
The way you think about yourself is either building you or breaking you. Start choosing thoughts that build you.
Take Care of How You Look and Feel
This isn’t about looking good for other people. This is about sending a message to yourself every day that says:
“I matter.”
When we go through emotional pain, it’s easy to stop caring about how we look or how we show up. You might start living in baggy clothes, skipping your skincare routine, or putting yourself last on the priority list.
But here’s the thing when you look in the mirror and like what you see, even just a little, it gives you a spark. It wakes something up inside you that’s been asleep.
Confidence grows when you start showing up for yourself especially in the small things.
Try this:
- Put on an outfit that makes you feel good, even if you’re just working from home.
- Do your hair or makeup the way you used to when you felt your best.
- Walk, move, stretch get into your body again.
These small acts build self-respect. And self-respect leads to confidence.
Remember: it’s not about looking perfect it’s about not giving up on yourself.
The Combo That Changes Everything
When you change the way you think about yourself and take care of your appearance and energy, everything shifts. Not overnight. But slowly, you’ll start to notice:
- You walk taller.
- You speak up more.
- You stop settling.
- You attract better.
This is how confidence is rebuilt from the inside out and the outside in.
Real Confidence Is Built After the Fall
If you’ve been through something hard like being left, betrayed, or broken up with it’s easy to believe your best days are behind you. But here’s what I want you to remember:
Real confidence is built after everything falls apart. It’s built when you pick yourself up, look in the mirror, and say: “I’m still here. And I’m going to rise.”
You don’t need to wait to feel ready. You don’t need to wait for someone to tell you you’re good enough. You get to start now with your thoughts, your energy, your actions.
Start Here
If you’re ready to build real confidence, start with these two things:
- Watch your thoughts. Don’t let your mind bully you anymore.
- Care for your appearance and body. Show up like you matter because you do.
It’s not selfish. It’s not shallow. It’s necessary. Because the most powerful thing you can do after heartbreak or loss is remember who you are and become her again.
