Moving On Fast after a Discard
Dec 30, 2024
I know how hard it is to see your ex move on so fast after they’ve left you. It feels like a slap in the face, doesn’t it? Like all the time, love, and energy you poured into the relationship meant nothing to them. You’re sitting there, replaying everything in your mind, trying to figure out what went wrong, and they’re out there acting like you never existed. It’s confusing, it’s painful, and it feels downright unfair.
Here’s the truth: their quick rebound isn’t about you. It’s about them. Most people who move on that fast aren’t actually healed or ready for something new. They’re running. Running from their own feelings, their mistakes, and their fears. Sure, they might look happy right now, but happiness built on avoidance doesn’t last.
But I know knowing that doesn’t make it hurt any less. Watching them appear to have it all together while you’re struggling is tough. It’s easy to start comparing yourself to their new life or thinking maybe you weren’t good enough. But let’s take a step back here. This isn’t a race. Healing takes time, and the work you’re doing on yourself now will pay off in ways you can’t even imagine yet.
Why It Hurts So Much
- It feels personal. You wonder why they could move on so quickly and if it’s because something was wrong with you.
- Comparison is unavoidable. Seeing them with someone new makes you compare yourself, their life, and your progress.
- It feels like a loss of control. While they’re seemingly thriving, you’re left processing the pain and confusion of the breakup.
- It opens old wounds. If you’ve experienced rejection or abandonment before, this might hit you even harder, triggering those past feelings.
Why They Move On So Quickly
- Avoidance. They’re dodging their own emotions and pain by jumping into something new.
- Validation. A new relationship might make them feel validated or worthy, even if it’s superficial.
- Control. Sometimes, people move on quickly to maintain control over how they’re perceived or to hurt their ex.
But here’s the thing: their actions aren’t about you. They’re about their inability to face themselves. That doesn’t mean it doesn’t hurt, but it does mean it’s not your fault or a reflection of your worth.
How to Begin Moving Forward
- Let yourself feel the pain. Avoid the temptation to numb it or pretend it’s not there. Sit with your emotions, cry if you need to, and allow yourself to grieve the loss.
- Limit exposure. Stop checking their social media, block them if necessary, and focus on creating space for your healing.
- Lean on your support system. Spend time with friends and family who uplift you and remind you of your worth.
- Focus on self-care. Take walks, meditate, journal, or pick up a new hobby. These small acts will help you feel grounded and present.
- Celebrate your progress. Even if you’re just getting through the day, acknowledge that as a win. Healing isn’t linear, and every step forward matters.
The hardest part about healing is that it doesn’t happen overnight. But the work you’re doing now is laying the foundation for a stronger, happier, and more confident version of yourself. You’ll start to see that your worth isn’t tied to their actions or anyone else’s validation.
When you focus on rebuilding your life, you’ll attract better people and opportunities because you’ll be in a healthier, more stable place. The pain you’re feeling right now is temporary, and it will pass. What you’ll gain from healing—peace, self-love, and a life that feels truly yours—is worth every bit of effort.
You’ve got this. One day at a time, one small step at a time, you’re moving closer to a brighter, healthier future.
