Self-Parenting Secrets Nurturing Your Inner Child

Let's get into something we all need: self-parenting. Trust me, after my divorce, I spent so much time just with me and my son that it kind of forced me to have to self-parent because no one else was there to help me out. Once I started, though, it seriously made everything better—dating, work, my health, all of it. 

What even is Self-Parenting? 

We've all had moments when we just wanted a hug or someone to talk to. That really is what self-parenting is. It’s your ability to be what you already are for so many people in your life. I’'s the shoulder you let others cry on. It’s the kind words you give to someone you love. It’s the empathy and validation you give others. Now flip it and give all of that to yourself.  

Once you start practicing this it makes being alone much easier, and you won't be desperately looking for someone else to fill that role.  

Why is your emotional health so important? 

Sometimes, we think that if we just stay busy and keep moving, we will be okay; we won't. Our emotional health is so important because, no matter how busy we are, there is going to be a time when we just aren't. If our emotions are in a bad state, well, guess what? It's all going to come up when we want to start a new relationship, someone says something at work, or if you have kids, when your kid says something, you don't like. It's all just going to come out at whoever is there. So, it's not just important for you but for just functioning day to day. 

Self-Parenting Habits 

Self Talk. Talking nicely to yourself is super important, we all know this, but yet rarely do it. When we say positive things to ourselves, it helps us feel better. What a concept! It will allow you to do things that feel uncomfortable. It will help soothe you when you are going through a tough time.  

Mindful Practice. Being aware of your feelings can help you a lot! What I mean is just paying attention to how you feel. Are you feeling good today? Maybe you saw something about your ex, and now you're starting to feel down. That's what I mean by being aware; it's like making sure you know how you're feeling, no matter what it is. It can be tough because you not only have to know your feelings but also understand why you feel that way, which takes some thinking. But once you figure it out, even in tough times, you can take control. 

A good way to start being aware is to spend a few minutes at the end of the day writing about how your day went—maybe focus on a few good things and one thing you could have done better. No judgment, just trying to get a little better with your emotions every day. 

Self-Parenting in your Relationships 

Taking care of yourself, like a good self-parent, works wonders for all your relationships. When you're tuned into your own needs and emotions, you become more aware and understanding of others. It's like having a solid foundation – you know how to handle your own stuff, which makes it easier to be there for others. By nurturing yourself emotionally, you build a sense of stability that positively influences how you connect with those around you. You become more patient, empathetic, and better equipped to navigate the ups and downs of any relationship. 

Moreover, self-parenting sets the tone for healthy boundaries and effective communication. When you've got a handle on your emotions, you're better at expressing yourself without unnecessary drama. It's like having an emotional toolkit that helps you handle conflicts calmly and assertively. This not only strengthens your relationships but also fosters a positive and supportive environment where everyone feels heard and understood. Ultimately, self-parenting becomes the secret sauce that enriches and deepens the connections you share with others.