The Pain of Discard

One of the most painful things you'll ever experience in your life – being discarded by someone for another person. Let's be honest; if someone discards you out of the blue, without any prior discussion, it's a sudden and harsh breakup, leaving you in a whirlwind of emotions. I've been there, and I want to share some insights and guidance from my own experience.

Chances are, if you're reading this, you've been on a roller coaster of emotions. You've probably gone through Google, staying up late watching videos on narcissism, discards, and the other person involved. It can be validating and educational, but it can also become consuming and obsessive.

I want to make a point that being discarded is not a reflection of your self-worth or value. It's a reflection of the other person's inability to form a healthy connection. It's important not to blame yourself or nitpick every aspect of you in the relationship. A discard happens when the other person isn't getting what they want, and it doesn't necessarily mean you were inadequate.

Now, let's talk about narcissistic personality disorder. These individuals are often self-absorbed, driven by their needs, and can be charming on the surface while masking insecurities. A lot of the time you only realize their true nature when you're emotionally invested in the relationship, making it harder to leave, especially if you're cohabiting or have children together.

During a discard, it's normal to experience a range of emotions – happiness, sadness, gratitude, and disbelief. What's important is to understand that what you went through was traumatic, and it's okay to feel a whirlwind of emotions. Give yourself permission to grieve, but don't let negative emotions linger too long, affecting your self-esteem.

Remember, a discard is not about you; it's about them and their insecurities. It's an opportunity for self-reflection and growth. Acknowledge areas where you could improve, but also recognize your standards. Were you looking for connection, empathy, a best friend, or a rock? It's normal to have a mix of yes and no.

To rebuild, you need a balance of self-nurturing and tough love. Remind yourself that you're a good person who didn't deserve this. Create self-worth by acknowledging your strengths and standards. Recognize the opportunity to rise above challenges, learn from the experience, and become a better version of yourself.

While it's challenging, this is not the end, it's an opportunity for a new beginning! Don't let the other person control your feelings and dictate your life. Understand the type of person you were dealing with and their insecurities. You have the power to create a better life than you ever imagined.

It's normal to feel hopeful and inspired after watching videos like this, but it's important to keep reinforcing these positive messages. Life is a journey, and challenges will persist, but by learning to deal with them and not suppressing emotions, you become a creator of your own path!

Discard doesn't define your worth. It's a stepping stone to self-love and growth. Become a better, stronger version of yourself. You will get through this challenging time and it will pass, and you'll come out way stronger from it!