Why It’s So Hard and How to Finally Move Forward
Apr 28, 2025
Letting go is one of the hardest things to do, especially when you’re still emotionally attached. It’s not just about moving on—it’s about releasing the tight grip someone still has on your heart. It feels almost impossible, doesn’t it? You've invested time, love, and energy into the relationship, and the thought of walking away—especially when the other person seems to be moving on—feels unfair. But here's the thing: holding on only keeps you stuck.
Why Letting Go Feels Impossible
There are so many reasons why we find it so difficult to let go, and often, they have little to do with the other person and everything to do with us.
- You Crave Closure
We often think closure comes from a conversation or an explanation from the other person. We feel like we need that last bit of information, that one final word to help us make sense of everything. The truth is, real closure doesn’t come from them. It comes from within you. You have the power to give yourself the closure you need. - You’re Scared of the Unknown
Moving on means facing an uncertain future. And let’s be honest—uncertainty can be terrifying. It’s so much easier to hold on to what’s familiar, even if it’s painful, than to take a step into the unknown. But remember, growth happens outside of your comfort zone. - You Still Have Hope
Hope can be both beautiful and destructive. It’s natural to hope for someone to change or that things might somehow work out. But holding on to that hope—especially when it’s unrealistic—only keeps you trapped in the past. The future can’t move forward if you’re still looking back.
How to Finally Let Go
Now, I know letting go sounds easier said than done, but there are some things you can start doing right now to free yourself from the past and embrace the future you deserve.
- Accept That the Past Can’t Be Changed
It’s tempting to replay memories in your mind, hoping that somehow, you can change what happened. But the reality is, replaying the past won’t rewrite it. Acceptance is the key to letting go. It’s accepting that what happened is what happened—and that it doesn’t define your future. - Cut Emotional Ties
This is one of the hardest parts. It means distancing yourself emotionally and physically from reminders of the past. Stop checking their social media, stop reminiscing about the “good times,” and stop fantasizing about what could have been. This is your opportunity to take your emotional energy back. - Forgive (But Not for Them—For You)
Forgiveness doesn’t mean excusing what happened or pretending it didn’t hurt. Forgiveness is about letting go of the anger and resentment that weighs you down. It’s about freeing yourself from the burden of holding on to those negative emotions. When you forgive, you release yourself from the past. - Focus on Your Future, Not Theirs
One of the most powerful shifts you can make is to stop comparing your future to theirs. Their life is no longer your business. Your business is creating a future that excites you, a life that brings you happiness, and a path that helps you grow. Shift your energy toward your goals and your happiness.
Letting Go Is About Choosing Yourself Over the Past
Letting go isn’t about forgetting what happened, it’s about choosing yourself over the past. You’re not erasing the good moments, but you are freeing yourself from the emotional weight that comes with holding on. And you are so worth that choice.
